Lets Talk with Zhaniya

Sometimes we feel anger, worry, or stress — We shout at each other, try to break one another, we crash and burn bridges that can’t be fixed with a simple sorry 

You know, emotions don’t last long, but the consequences of acting too quickly can stay with us for a lifetime.
If we take a deep breath before acting, we can prevent many problems.
Staying calm and thinking doesn’t mean staying silent so the other person can destroy you.

We should learn to listen more — within that silence.

To truly listen, so you can try to understand the other, and ourselves, to find your way back to empathy, and to give people space to express their thoughts freely.

Think about it: we have two ears and one mouth — doesn’t that mean we’re meant to listen more than we speak?

We can control our reaction to our emotions if we truly want to.
We can control our actions if we truly want to.
If we don’t want to do something unnecessary, we can choose not to. At times this is very difficult, but never impossible.

When we learn to observe our thoughts and emotions instead of being controlled by them, letting them take the lead, that’s where the real conversation begins.

Between what happens to us and how we respond, there is a small space.
In that space lies our freedom and our power to choose our reaction.
The more we learn to use that space, the stronger we become and free ourselves from the force of emotions!

Every time we react with anger, we give away our energy and power.
But when we respond with calmness, we keep that energy, we keep our power — and it becomes our strength.
Silence is not emptiness or compliance, or letting someone walk all over you; it’s a space where understanding grows.

When we truly listen, we don’t just hear others — we also hear ourselves. It’s then, and only then, that we can truly see each other.